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Kramer said every relationship needs a little jealousy to thrive."With a healthy jealousy we might be able to say, ' Hey, wait a second, something doesn't feel right or seem right.Let me unpack things and see where this jealousy really comes from,'" he said."It was really good having peace of mind."In their sex lives, they oscillate between being a unit and acting independently, with the help of communication. "We're not here just to fulfill your personal fantasy," Stenstrum said. Aldridge said, "I think it comes down to feeling like I'm at least welcome in the situation." But he says no if he's not interested: "As long as I'm included in the initial ' You could join us,' in general, I'm OK with that."The unit did express a tension with their queer, monogamous counterparts.In the time of marriage equality, they said they often have had to fight to be seen as three individuals in one legitimate, loving relationship."I think whenever I talk to somebody, they have an assumption I'm trying to recruit them into a sex cult," Rayo said.Sunk into a brown sofa, a clean oasis in an accumulation of belongings, Stenstrum made clear what their one-bedroom apartment said about them."There's too much stuff all over the place," he said.
A rotation schedule may sound odd, but while the relationship's mechanics function differently, its core is downright banal: hard work and honesty.
For Aldridge, who is new to polyamory, this method of conflict is a vast improvement."It's been so fantastic to have someone who's not part of the fight but is concerned with the welfare of both parties," Aldridge said.
"It's interesting to have a third person who cares about both of you and can kind of help resolve situations and keep you in check and say, ' No, you're being irrational' or ' Your demands are not good demands to make of someone you love.'"Having a third person around has been beneficial for Rayo, who often retreats to decompress."If I need to sink into a dark corner, there's someone around to handle things," he said.
But a month or two into their long-distance romance, a guilt-wracked Rayo confessed to hooking up with a friend at a party.
That's when Stenstrum (who responded with "Was he hot? First, it was sex with other people, and then dating other people.Then Rayo met Aldridge through a dating app one night.